There is a deep appreciation that I have not acknowledged, a personal moment that I will remember for the rest of my life. Where a person’s compassion was not afraid to speak in a moment when they could have remained silent. This gratitude I wish to extend to a stranger’s voice that reached me in my raw grief.
Sincerely, Deeply, Thank You.
Several years ago, I cried a daughter’s tears. I wept a deep anguish in the back of a bathroom stall. Hidden to the world, I refused to be seen, yet my silence could not be contained. In the acceptance of a sentence that was soon to occur, I bawled. Ugly, unforgiving sobs, cowering in the face of my future.
In the middle of my pain, not recognizing there was another person in the world, a voice drifted to me. A real individual whose face I would never see, reached out simply, beautiful and heartfelt. She told me, “I’m sorry.”
This stranger, not so strange to the voice of anguish showed me her strength. Shared her light with the breath of her words, unnecessary, yet she made a huge impact, and I still hear her voice to this day. Loving, caring, real.
Grief is a strange-bird. Rendering those watching, speechless, afraid of what to say or how to say it and in the end often say nothing. Why? Because it renders those in the wings, uncomfortable. I share this moment with you mostly because I have never felt touched by an unknown individual who knew not even my name. I was in another state and very much alone.
In those few words, her deep sentiment is still felt. The reality is she could have left that same room and said nothing. I would not have even known she was there or existed, but she made a choice, a choice to speak out loud. To change a reality that I now live, but where her whisper is still felt.
Never be afraid to speak when there are kind things to be said. Send Sunshine.
Photo Credit to the beautiful Terri Webster-Schrandt
I dedicate this to Kristen, you are the strong face to many. “I’m sorry, and you are so loved.” Heaven is but a breath away, be well and know how very proud you have made her.